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YOUR FRIENDLY FAMILY RESOLUTION NEWSLETTER

JULY 2025

Welcome to the latest update from Divorce Done Differently!

 WOMEN SUPPORTING WOMEN EVENT

A big night of connection, community and giving back.

In 2024, this wonderful event proudly raised over $49,000 in support of The Family Co.
In 2025, it was bigger, brighter and better, raising over $104,000 in support of The Family Co. 

Over 200 women attended and it was wonderful to see so many familiar faces from such a supportive family law community.

This professional networking evening is proudly sponsored by Southern Waters Legal, a firm deeply committed to empowering women and supporting families in our community. The event is designed for women in business, senior leadership roles, and women looking to connect with like-minded professionals who understand the power of community and collaboration. It's more than just networking—it's a platform to lift each other up while raising vital funds for women and children affected by domestic violence in our local community.

Leona Bennett and Sarah Lamb of Southern Waters Legal, should be incredibly proud of the event they have created, the people they bring together and the difference they make to women and children who need it most. All proceeds from the auctions are donated to The Family Co., whose support services are crucial to families fleeing domestic violence.

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LEAVING FAMILY VIOLENCE PROGRAM

From 1 July 2025, Telstra Health will become the national provider of the Leaving Violence Program on behalf of the Australian Government. This program offers up to $5,000 to eligible victim-survivors of any gender or identity, with up to $1,500 provided in cash and the rest in goods and services.  It aims to support those leaving or who have left violent intimate partner relationships through tailored financial assistance, risk assessments, safety planning, and referral support.

Regional trials will also take place in four areas across Australia, facilitated by First Nations-led organisations in Dubbo, Broome, Darwin, and Cairns. 

From 1 July 2025, people can apply by calling 1800 2 LEAVE (1800 253 283).

You can find more details about the Leaving Family Violence program through this link. 

 

COLLABORATIVE CONNECTIONS

Collaborative Professionals (NSW) is hosting many wonderful events throughout 2025...

COLLABORATIVE TRAINING

 

There is no better time to upskill and learn all about collaborative practice. Our next round of training kicks off on 25 July 2025. It is all online, each Friday morning from 8-930am and it a load of fun. Join Shelby Timmins, Clarissa Rayward, John Thynne and Lynda McKie as the team teach you all about resolving dispute in a dignified manner outside of court. You can register here.

OUR FREE 14 DAY CO-PARENTING CHALLENGE

Divorce doesn't damage kids, conflict does!

The FREE 14 day Co-parenting Challenge is meant to be get parents thinking about the type of co-parent they want to be and is full of tips and activities to make this happen.

Please feel free to share this link with anyone you think could do with a little helping hand when it comes to co-parenting.

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SUPPORTING YOUNG LAWYERS

For many readers of this newsletter, we have all been a young lawyer/professional at some stage in our career. We know all too well the pressures of wanting to do the right thing, providing the right advice, not wanting disappoint your boss. Ensuring young lawyers have people they can turn to when they have a tricky question or need to just work through a concern in a safe place, is essential.  This month, Shelby joined a panel of presenters at the Sutherland Shire Young Lawyers event, to share her experience and tips on thriving in the law (even though she has stepped away from practising). It was a full house, wonderful location and great colleagues.

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SPEAKING GIGS

Hear our Director, Shelby Timmins along with psychologist, Clare Rowe, and social scientist, Chanel Hughes discuss "Should kids have a voice/ or a choice when their parents separate?"  A great topic with many things to consider.  We would love to see you there.

 

Event: A Child's World in Family Law

Date: 14 to 16 August 2025

Location: Hilton Adelaide

View Program here

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We are always learning from others and are avid readers and thought you might enjoy our book choices too. To make things as easy as possible, we have created our very own Divorce Done Differently Reading Room. Here we will share with you any books or articles that we think you might enjoy. Grab a cuppa, find a few quiet moments, and enjoy 😊.

This month we have two wonderful books to recommend to you all.  They both are super helpful when it comes to assisting clients to co-parent well. Happy reading!

(Un)Tangled: 52 Co-Parenting Habits to Build Trust, Reduce Conflict and Raise Emotionally Secure Kids After Divorce

by Deborah Gilman, Ph.D.

Small shifts. Big impact. One week at a time (although I admit I read it over a weekend).
Co-parenting doesn’t have to feel like a tug of war.

In (Un)Tangled, clinical psychologist, co-parenting expert and my dear friend, Dr. Deborah Gilman offers 52 practical, powerful habits—one for every week of the year—to help divorced or separated parents reconnect with what matters most: raising emotionally secure, resilient kids.

Whether you’re deep in conflict or navigating the quiet tension of parallel parenting, this book meets you where you are. Each habit is rooted in neuroscience, attachment theory, and real-life stories from families who’ve been there. It provides easy to read, helpful tips and tools with the science to back it up.

Expect no shaming, no jargon—just a steady hand to guide you through the messiness, one week at a time.

Dr. Deborah Gilman is a licensed psychologist, expert in attachment and trauma, and co-parenting consultant with over two decades of experience helping families heal and thrive.

(Un)Tangled: 52 Co-Parenting Habits to Build Trust, Reduce Conflict and Raise Emotionally Secure Kids After Divorce

by Deborah Gilman, Ph.D.

Small shifts. Big impact. One week at a time (although I admit I read it over a weekend).
Co-parenting doesn’t have to feel like a tug of war.

In (Un)Tangled, clinical psychologist, co-parenting expert and my dear friend, Dr. Deborah Gilman offers 52 practical, powerful habits—one for every week of the year—to help divorced or separated parents reconnect with what matters most: raising emotionally secure, resilient kids.

Whether you’re deep in conflict or navigating the quiet tension of parallel parenting, this book meets you where you are. Each habit is rooted in neuroscience, attachment theory, and real-life stories from families who’ve been there. It provides easy to read, helpful tips and tools with the science to back it up.

Expect no shaming, no jargon—just a steady hand to guide you through the messiness, one week at a time.

Dr. Deborah Gilman is a licensed psychologist, expert in attachment and trauma, and co-parenting consultant with over two decades of experience helping families heal and thrive.

Relationship Reset

by Lissy Abrahams

Why do we fight most with those we love best?

Australian relationship therapist Lissy Abrahams has spent years exploring this question, both in her treatment room helping clients and through extensive research.

She knows that long-term conflict leaves us drained, anxious and worried for the emotional wellbeing of our families, but says it is neither intractable nor inevitable. Conflict is caused by unconscious patterns of thinking and behaviour - unresolved feelings of fear, instability or pain - which can be consciously rewired for a healthier, happier relationship.

Lissy has seen firsthand how even small changes can help people reduce conflict and reconnect with their partners, improving their quality of life.

In Relationship Reset, Lissy provides practical, evidence-based tools to help you:
- understand how childhood experiences affect adult relationships
- identify your blind spots, defence mechanisms and triggers - and recognise them in others
- become aware of patterns in conflict, and learn new ways to respond to distress
- communicate clearly and openly with your partner, without judgment
- develop a more trusting, intimate and stable relationship.

Filled with insightful research, case studies and exercises, Relationship Reset will help you rewrite the stories underlying your emotional life, and build a secure and loving union.

Relationship Reset

by Lissy Abrahams

Why do we fight most with those we love best?

Australian relationship therapist Lissy Abrahams has spent years exploring this question, both in her treatment room helping clients and through extensive research.

She knows that long-term conflict leaves us drained, anxious and worried for the emotional wellbeing of our families, but says it is neither intractable nor inevitable. Conflict is caused by unconscious patterns of thinking and behaviour - unresolved feelings of fear, instability or pain - which can be consciously rewired for a healthier, happier relationship.

Lissy has seen firsthand how even small changes can help people reduce conflict and reconnect with their partners, improving their quality of life.

In Relationship Reset, Lissy provides practical, evidence-based tools to help you:
- understand how childhood experiences affect adult relationships
- identify your blind spots, defence mechanisms and triggers - and recognise them in others
- become aware of patterns in conflict, and learn new ways to respond to distress
- communicate clearly and openly with your partner, without judgment
- develop a more trusting, intimate and stable relationship.

Filled with insightful research, case studies and exercises, Relationship Reset will help you rewrite the stories underlying your emotional life, and build a secure and loving union.

PREVIOUS BOOKS

APRIL 2025

Mille and Her Magic Puppet Show

Mille The Movie

The Let Them Theory

Divorce The Court - A Better Life Together... Apart

MARCH 2025

Tiny Traumas

CoParenting Compass

DECEMBER 2024

Not 'Completely' Divorced

The Mother Wound

MAY 2024

Seeing What Others Don't

Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method for Elevating Your Value and Relationships

Possible: How We Survive (and Thrive) In An Age Of Conflict

MARCH 2024

Trauma Informed Law

Good Mourning

FEBRUARY 2024

Five Arguments All Couples (Need to) Have and Why The Washing Up Matters

Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids

DECEMBER 2023

Fight Right - How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection 

NOVEMBER 2023

Mending Fences.  A Collaborative, Cognitive-Behavioral Reunification Protocol Serving the Best Interests of the Post-Divorce Polarized Child

Home Will Never Be The Same Again - A Guide for Adult Children Of Gray Divorce

AUGUST 2023 

 Divorce Journal for Kids

APRIL 2023 

The Power of Talk: Who gets heard and why?

Lead with compassion: Why compassion is a better managerial tactic than toughness

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